In this episode, I take a look at sex, disability and the law. We talk briefly about The Ugly Laws, Eugenics, and discuss two cases that examine consent, sex, disability and the law. Through these cases I explore how the courts and our legal systems have a lot of work to do in understanding disability, and suggest perhaps that the courts would rather rely on ableist prejudices than looking at things further.
In this episode, I talk candidly about my relationship to porn as a queer cripple, and how I came to learn about it in my youth. In this first part of a miniseries I am calling "PwD: Porn While Disabled", I share why I think disability and porn are totally important, potentially problematic, and uncover why I myself might want to embark in the industry.
This episode had me riled up and angry about the way the media ran stories from parents of children with disabilities without the children's consent. I focus on 2 stories here about two parents who consider hiring sex workers for their sons to experience sex. I had lots of things to say about that (mostly angry things), and I also touch on disability activists Carly Findlay and Kim Sauder's thoughts on the matter. What do you think about parents talking about their disabled child's sex lives to the media?
For this episode, I got to sit down with disabled activist Alex Haagaard. We talked about the intersectionality found on the autism spectrum w/ respect to sexuality. This was a really important interview that touched on disability and sexuality in a new way for me, and I'm excited to share that with you!
In this episode, I talk to Eva who is a young, non-disabled sex educator, making sex education available via her Youtube Channel "What's My Body Doing".
We talk about the need for better sex education around disabilities, discover that even seasoned sex educators are afraid to talk about sex and disability, and I let Eva ask me some questions, so she can become a better sex educator. Enjoy!
In this episode, we talk about butt stuff...but not in the way you might be expecting. I sat down with Kelly Bracken who reached out to the showing wanting to share her experiences with an ileostomy bag and how this has affected her sexual confidence. The interview is fun, honest and touches on a topic that so many of us are afraid to go near. Luckily, Kelly knows how to stay sexy when shit happens.
In this episode, I talk about my gimpy genitals; the way I have come to understand my sexual organs and my body through my relationship to disability is thoroughly, and hilariously explored.
This episode delves into the reality of touch and disability. We talk about how touch influences our sexuality as disabled people. I share my thoughts on how touch as a disabled man, and how this has played a role in my sex life, and I talk about what touch really means to me as a queer crippled man.
In this episode, I sit down with Youtuber Davey Wavey (www.daveywavey.tv). We talk about body image, boys, sex and disability. I am pretty much still pinching myself that he agreed to do it with me. It was a really funny, sexy, flirty show that made me crush on Davey and his work even more than I did before.
In this super special episode, I share a project that I have been working on with the National Film Board of Canada around my work in sexuality, disability and queerness; a documentary short called Picture This. I talk with Producer Lea Marin and Director Jari Osborne about the importance of a film like this, the ins and outs of producing this project, and I share what it was like to be the subject of a piece like this. I have included the Electronic Press Kit Link here so you can see clips, read the synopsis, and get ready to Picture This.
In this episode, we talk about the impact that money has on dating and disability. The feelings about not having enough money to go on dates, and the feelings when your date pays for you. All of this and more is explored in this new episode!
In this episode, we look at sex and disability after-care techniques including talking to other people about it both disabled and non-disabled; crying (and why that can be a method of self-care), self-talk around disability and sex, dancing out the ableism and more. Enjoy!!
In episode 041, we talk about some of the things you should NEVER say during or after sex with a disabled person... Don't say these things, and don't turn the afterglow into "after-no".
If you listened to Episode 039, you heard my episode about disability representation in film with special guest, Dominick Evans. Our conversation was actually over 2 hours and covered stuff like trans/disabled identity, BDSM, healthcare, and so much more! Here is the rest of it!! Have a listen and enjoy
In this first of two episodes, I talk with activist, producer and creator of the #FilmDis hashtag, Dominick Evans about sex and disability representation in the media. There's a lot of valuable stuff here, so listen up. Find out more about Dominck here: www.dominickevans.com
In this episode, we chat with sex educator Dawn Serra about other bodies, fat bodies, disability and sex. You don't wanna miss this one!
For this interview, I sit down with Alaina Leary. Her written work has been all over, and it is well-deserved. We talk about her coming out story, friendships, the moment that she identified and realized that she was disabled and so much more!
In this episode, we talk about the linkages between cleanliness, crippledness and sexiness. We talk about shower sex, disability and the ideas behind disability and dirtiness that many people still hold. We shed light on the ableist views around getting clean for sex and so much more.
Be sure to use #DisabilityAfterDark all on your social media for this one
In this episode, we talk about disability and masturbation. We talk about the 'process' of masturbation when disabled, I share some stories about cumming when young, queer and crippled, and we look at what happens when you can't cum by yourself anymore. How does disability affect self-pleasure on an emotional level? Find out!
A link to the blog I read from: http://www.andrewgurza.com/blog/2017/2/7/boys-in-chairs-that-time-i-couldnt-masturbate-by-myself-anymore
A link to the Teespring campaign to get a DisabilityAfterDark tee: www.teespring.com/disabilityafterdark